Save yourself from loosing your path to COMPARISION

Today, let’s talk about the most common habit of the social animal, i.e, comparing ourselves with others. Before proceeding further, we all should keep one thing in mind:

“PEOPLE HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON, THEY ARE ALL DIFFERENT”.

Comparing is actually one of the most important sources of unhappiness in our lives. We feel incredibly unhappy, resigned, even embarrassed, because our situation is nothing like the picture of the perfection that is painted by the Society & Media, which so result in our own unhappiness.

With the advent of social media, all we look towards is what the other person is posting, liking etc. 99% of the content shared on social media is positive. We think that his life is perfect and he is having all the fun and then we start comparing and feel bad about ourselves.

Instead, we should never compare ourselves with others, for – “Everyone has his own originality, and no one can play your role better than you”. Looking up to someone is awesome but we never realize when we start comparing and it becomes an obsession.

It’s always the point of view that changes how you see a person or a thing.  A city from the top of the mountain looks beautiful and from inside it feels too crowded.

“THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF A COIN”

Now let’s see how we can stop comparing.

Know Yourself and What You Stand For.

Respect and love yourself. The “ability” to stop comparing is the result of how you feel about yourself and your life today. If you have an incessant need to compare yourself with others, and you can’t seem to stop yourself from doing so, it suggests you are probably insecure or unsure about yourself (or that area of your life which you are comparing with others).  If your comparison behaviour is due to insecurity or a lack of confidence in yourself or in that area of comparison, you should build your self-confidence or your confidence in that area, instead of continually making comparisons with others (since the comparisons will never end).

Recognize Everyone and Everyone’s Life Is Unique.

As stated earlier, “Everyone has his own Originality, and no one can play your role better than you”. So, understand this thing that every person is different and everyone has his own individuality, his own capabilities, his own limits, and his own destiny. Besides recognizing the uniqueness of each person, recognize that everyone’s life is unique. There is no point in comparing yourself or your life with other people’s lives, because each of us has our unique life path that is ours to create and ours to follow. There is no need to feel compelled to live a life that is just like someone else’s, because you are different from that person. Embrace and celebrate the uniqueness and differences between everyone.

Focus on Being the Best Version of Yourself

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow-man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” It is good to refer to others as benchmarks of excellence, especially when they are doing well in the goals which you want to pursue. However, know that your end goal here is to create your unique life path and excel in your own shoes—not to be a replica of someone else. Feel free to let yourself be inspired by others, but don’t lose yourself in the fascination. Ultimately, your biggest, and only source of competition in life is yourself!

You will never know the other side of the story that what a person has been through to be where he is today. Let’s not always see the end goal but the process which leads to it. All the overnight success stories are the results of years of hard work.

Let’s take a pledge today that I will stop making comparisons between me and others. The only person I will compare ourselves is I, Me, Myself.

“THERE IS ALWAYS HIS SIDE OF STORY, MY SIDE OF THE STORY AND A THIRD SIDE OF THE STORY.”